Ah, Pillow_Humper, just who I wanted to see:

[teegardin]

Ah, Pillow_Humper, just who I wanted to see: I need some perspective. As the older guy, I'm having a very difficult time wrestling with the idea that a woman in her mid-20s would be okay with my being interested in her. Since you seem to have no problem with the idea, can you give me any insight into how to frame this in my own mind so I'm not giving myself the creeps or chickening out? This is based on the fact that I am genuinely interested in her as a complete person, not just as a cheap thrill or a midlife balm. (And if this don't get me trolled nothing will...)

[alfons]

well what has happened so far? are there vibes there? do you get along well as it is? It really is the same as any other relationship. HOWEVER i think as an older man you are more experienced and know how to be as attentive to a womans needs (as much as she is yours). But really the biggest thing to get over is what everyone else will think.

[Idalia]

Vibes, yes. Don't know what to make of them -- worried I'm making the wrong things out of them. Could be friendship, could be more. We click when we see each other. We chat via e-mail. We've got similar interests, similar senses of humor. I light up when I see her, she seems to light up around me. But it's not like we've gone out socially. I guess I've just gotten used to feeling like an alien species around people half my age, so I can't fathom or trust what seems like interest on her part.

[edith]

i guess the only things i could say are: 1. yes, there is an age difference, don't try too hard to be into what she is into or anything like that. let yourself be naturally you (like in any relationship) 2. vibes are vibes, they don't know any age. I was pretty much friends with this guy at first and never really imagined having what we have now. So again you just have to let the natural evolution of the relationship happen. 3. be appreciative! it goes both ways. 4. forget what other people might think. society definitely doesn't know whats best.

[Codi]

Item 2 makes me VERY happy to hear because that seems to be the way it's going now. Item 4: I'm more worried about what I think, or what she might think, than what the rest of the world does.

[sanchez]

well as things progress make sure to communicate without alarm or drama about what she thinks about it what you think about etc etc. probably wont even need to bring it up though :_)

[Joanie]

Well, I've kinda buried the main question: I haven't yet deliberately signaled any romantic interest. Perhaps she's got suspicions, or perhaps she's just being friendly and non-ageist. So what do I do? Signal something, or lay back on my heels and wait? I feel a bit of urgency because I think she's between relationships. I keep clanking back and forth between deciding to go for it and deciding to leave her alone. (Note: troll material aplenty here folks!)

[wallenberg]

do you know some of her interests? can you find something to do that you would like to do too, and where it would be obvious its a "date"

[melberg]

Yes, and OH yes. It's that "date" part I still can't get my head wrapped around. Like I need one or two more signs before I take that step. I got one sign today that I wasn't expecting -- that's why I'm harping on this so hard.

[poindexter]

just take a chance.

[delgreco]

OK, I will. Can I check in with you next week when I haven't done it yet?

[kathan]

lol yes but you better i mean its always good to be getting to know someone in any sense. so as long as you are still doing that i will be happy.

[chipman]

I wish I could have a cool story like that about it, but actually it's something I found on the web that I threw in there to amuse a depressed person here in Rofo one night, and I just left it.

[tamanaha]

i like it :) triggered a good memory.

[sigman]

omg you are not even!! liar

[peffer]

How do you know?

[christa]

*blink*

[maietta]

What're you blinkin at? How do you know he's lieing?

[bickerton]

you...again delusional disorders...he knows better but it is fun to play at fantasy

[holtzinger]

youve got an odd manner about you I dont know anyone here well at all.