Doesn't Know how to Masturbate?

[russel]

Doesn't Know how to Masturbate? WTF? I just didn't know what to respond. So, the girlfriend is all hot and bothered, teenage are in the house, but I've coaxed her bra off and her nipples are poking through the thin fabric of her top. She's imploring me to stop because we couldn't go any further with the in the house and if I continued she'd be desperate for more. So, I just say that she'll have to bring herself to orgasm later after I leave and the are in bed (noting that I'd be happy to be on the phone with her). That's when she springs the revelation on me. ?!? We had agreed earlier that the next time we go for a walk in the park she must wear a sexy dress with neither panties nor bra allowed. Now, I've said I won't go out on that date to the park unless she shows me her bringing herself to orgasm first. Which had her interested and excited, but I'm to tell her what to do and how to do it? Guess she's all hot and ready to let loose but the religious upbringing and limited sexual experimentation is coming to the fore a little. She actually thought that if she could orgasm on her own, she won't need me. And said that when I started masturbating in front of her she felt that she wasn't necessary. She was on her knees and giving me a BJ while I was standing, I can't cum from a bj and wanted to cum on her face. Interestingly, it seems it's the masturbation that drove her to offer up her ass instead and not the idea of taking it in the mouth. Also had a very strange discussion about orgasms vs. "finishing" and how it applied to men or not. Probably not too kinky for the regulars, but the adventure continues....

[durnell]

Sad result of our prudish society In such an environment, it's no wonder so many are overly-focused on idealized sex and undereducated about their own healthy sexuality. Hopefully, she will grow from an ignorant student to an enlightened expert... Maybe with your help?

[wiesemann]

Amen and Amen! lol We should only hope so, poet ;)

[tajen]

great link in your profile I love redheads, that first picture i intialy thought was you pregnant, then i saw it was your boob, VERY NICE

[haskin]

Well I want to help. Hence the question/WTF posted here. But it's a little daunting. Seems masturbation coach isn't exactly the title I was expecting. :p I think it really explains the look on her face that I caught during sex last time. She didn't seem to know what to do with her hands as she was on her back with her feet in the air. She started pawing at my hands where I was holding her behind the knees but was distracting me. So, in changing position to grabbing her breasts, I grabbed her hands and put them palm down on her breasts under mine. After squeezing her for a bit, her hands came alive, a funny look went over her face, and she continued to play with her breasts and nipples after I let go. In hind sight it was obviously an OOHH NEW TOYS! kind of look. LOL But part of the conversation we had certainly uncovered a nasty helping of puritanical "it's wrong to have dirty thoughts" without boyfriend present. I'm quite amazed that she opened up to having sex with me so soon. Seems she went for years without sex. EEP! I can't fathom the thought. Well, at least involuntarily going without. Married, I went sexless plenty.

[pabon]

Maybe the place to begin is some discussions on why you have sex. If it's just for a "release," then yeah, masturbation could seem threatening. But if it's for intimacy or connection or love or something else, then how exactly you orgasm becomes a lot less loaded (heh), I think. It can be damn hard to overcome upbringing, even lost past the time your mind has rejected what it was taught. Would watching some videos help? easier maybe to watch and imitate than to read about it. I don't know if this would work for her, but for me, it is HOT to be told how to masturbate, from someone who is there watching me. I don't even care if he guesses wrong half the time, it's still hot enough that it's going to work. A nice blog post, IMO, on why a certain woman has sex (a BDSM view); it links to a more academic article on reasons women have sex (up at the top).

[ewig]

GREAT articles both of them.

[Fiann]

I agree with Pagan... our repressed victorian society has always looked on masturbation as a kind of deviance, and in the not-to-distant past devices were even invented so he/she could not touch themselves 'down there'.....some religions, including Catholic, still frown upon it and thus becomes an emotional and sexual barrier to those wanting to pleasure themselves.... Tell her that not only would her 'doing herself' help her to achieve sexual satisfaction, it would excite you merely by watching, and thus fire up both of your sex drives....